So I was talking to my best friend (Lainey) on the phone the other night, and she honestly wasn’t coping with anything. She was sick, she was tired,she was worried, she missed her family (She goes to a boarding school) and she was basically having a meltdown from all the drama that had been going around at her school. It was pretty late, so both of us were struggling to think properly (I swear, my brain was actually sleeping), but something that she had said got me thinking. I had been trying to help her to feel better, but all of a sudden she said ‘Skye. I shouldn’t be upset! I’m so, so blessed. And a million other people have it worse than me.’ While this is true in some aspects, and while I know that personally I tend to think like this a lot as well, there were parts to that statement that I realized I had never quite thought about before.
Saying that you can’t be sad because someone else has it worse is actually like saying that you can’t be happy because someone else has it better.
Now how silly (not trying to be offensive in any way) does that sound? Absolutely no one can say that you can’t be sad while others are.
I mean, yes it is true that there will alwaaaaays (underline the word always) going to be someone out there that you can compare yourself with. Whether that be in a positive or negative way. But the person that you’re comparing yourself with is battling their own problems and demons. No one has the exactly same situation as you do. Everyone is unique from one another, and we all have different strengths and weaknesses. We all have our own emotions, and we all deal with them in our own personal ways. Comparing emotions doesn’t fix them.
If we all spent our time trying to stop feeling sad by comparing ourselves, those negative and upsetting emotions would never properly go away. Instead, they would only be covered in someone else’s problems. And that certainly doesn’t fix yours, does it? No. You need to be able to feel them in able to properly get rid of them. You need to sometimes be sad to be properly happy later.
I Honestly think that’s something that most of us need to realise. Especially meeeee hahaha.
I do hope all you guys are happy though. And even if you’re not at the moment, I hope you know that you will be happy again soon.
God bless you.